Sunday, September 6, 2009

Letting Go

This is the 2nd part of chapter 20 of H. Norman Wright's Experiencing Grief. Mid-chapter he talked about time frames to be aware of and earlier in the book it was to know that anniversary dates of all kinds can be difficult.

This is the first time he's approached letting go. The time frame mentioned is 12 to 18 months when good days outnumber bad days. I think I'm already there. I still can't get through church without tears but I'm ok with that. I can control the tears a little more so I don't soak 4 tissues-just one. It's those darned 3rd or 4th verses of most hymns!!! Today we sang, A Mighty Fortress which is not one of my weepy songs. It could be but I'm not going there.

So, letting go. I thought I was okay with the concept and how I'm doing. I'm not as okay as I thought I was but I recognize this is a process. I mentioned to my sis that we never finished cleaning out Mom's room. I'm not really in a hurry. I more wanted it on her list somewhere.

I'm not sure what letting go looks like. Does is mean her room is packed up? Does it mean I've repurposed her room? Does it have anything at all to do with things? My time is much the same in schedule as it always has been but I have much more free time. That doesn't feel so much like moving on as a natural change.

I guess I'll be finding out as I go. On to digesting the next chapter.

A young Mom, if Sis is an infant this is 1960:

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